As I get closer to the start of the Killer Confidence Bootcamp, I am really re-connecting to my "why". Why I care to create this program, why I am willing to work every morning, before heading off to my day job, and why I feel it is truly needed in our world. See the thing is, I've been seeing a theme repeated across all of my client sessions lately. This theme really drives the point home for me- that NOW IS THE TIME. Time for each of us to take our power back and to arrive in our lives, with joy, self-acceptance and purpose.
My clients are some of the most incredible, insightful, beings of pure magic- to borrow a description from my dear friend Rachel, these women are pure "heart-explosions". I feel beyond lucky to be graced by their energy and to be a part of their stories... the thing is though, each one of them, is WAITING... each one of them is stuck in this story of "not me". Each time I speak to one of them, I leave the session in complete awe, of what women survive, and yet, somehow, we think, "I don't have anything to add to the "x" conversation." Or even worse, we carry around embarrassment of not being "perfect". What is this about??
When did we learn that "imperfection" is so terrible? When did we learn that people who, "have their shit together" all the time, are the only ones that can contribute to the growth of others or contribute to the world? I gotta be honest, I am much more impressed by people who overcome trials, than someone who shows up and says "oh, that was easy."
Let me remind you, YOUR STRUGGLES ARE YOUR GIFT! Your "imperfection" is what this world needs to see. Not so your "haters" have ammo to bring you down, but so that others in this world can feel support and inspiration from your story. Your story has the power to lift someone out of a dark and lonely place, to let someone else know, that there are other options for life, that they don't have to stay in the pain they are in. I am not saying, that you have to have your shit all figured out either, to start contributing, it's OK to still be struggling!
It truly breaks my heart to see how many women are stuck and hurt by the pursuit of perfection. It breaks my heart to know how much beauty they are hiding from the world, because they think "messy" = "ugly."
To let you in on a little secret, the best thing I've done for my life, that has produced more joy than any other single action, was learning to use the phrase "FUCK PERFECTION"!!
Seriously, that two word, 4-syllable phrase, has so much power!!
When you realize that you have infinite power within yourself, when you allow yourself to be the woman you really, truly are, and you live in a place of authenticity- my god, there is nothing more beautiful and inspiring than that!
So, how about that "why": Why am I creating the, 12 Week, Killer Confidence Bootcamp ???
I dream of a time when women don't bond over grievances about their bodies. A time when women stop giving away their power to insecurity and self doubt. A time when women look to each other, to be built up, not competed with or torn down. I dream of a time that "imperfection" is seen as the new "perfection."
I truly believe that each one of us is on this planet to add depth, complexity and insight to this world. I want to help women connect with their purpose- I want to help women put an end to the waiting game. You were not put on this planet to live a aimless life, you were put on this planet to effect it. To use your voice. I want to help un-silence all the women of this world- I want to hear all of your stories.
I want to help women become BEST FRIENDS with their bodies. To realize that you and your body are on the same team. That caring for her and loving her (as she is) is a divine gift. That food is just food, not a good thing or bad thing, but it has the power to nourish you and give you the fuel to become who you are meant to be. I want to help women reconnect to their intrinsic value- the car you drive, the house you live in, or the six-pack you have (or don't have) does NOT give you more or less value than the woman next to you or on Instagram, half-way across the world.
Even more, I want to help women learn to celebrate their achievements, gifts and uniqueness. Why do we feel like we need to downplay these things? Why are we told to be confident, but the second we talk about something we've accomplished or are proud of, we are seen as "full of ourselves".
So, why is this a group program, rather than one-on-one, as my coaching practice has been up to this point? This past fall, I witnessed the most phenomenal experience ever. Perhaps you are one of the students that attended my workshop, Confidence is Key: 10 Simple Steps to Rocket Your Self Esteem at Marist College and you can remember this experience, but if not, let me tell you about it.
A student was able to share an aspect of her truth that she had been hiding for years. She had never shared that experience with anyone (accept her roommate) and when she finally shared it with the room (filled with other women), every one of us was brought to tears. Not only did she feel great relief at finally letting it out, she was met with the most loving and genuine support from the other gals in the room.
We don't have to go it alone, on this journey to confidence, self discovery and love... there are power in numbers as they say and I want to offer that to the participants. A truly supportive and understanding sisterhood. "We rise by lifting others" and this is an opportunity for each one of us that participates, to get support, love, guidance, understanding and to give it all back too! I promise you, it will be magical!!!
So please, if you are feeling like there must be more to life than you are experiencing currently, if you hear yourself saying "not me", "I don't know", or "maybe someday", stop waiting. THE TIME IS NOW!!
Join the 12 Week, Killer Confidence Bootcamp.
I can't wait to meet you, to introduce you to your sisterhood and to help you find your voice and power! It's time to become the YOU, you have always dreamed of. It's time to END THE WAR on your body. It's time for you to believe in yourself and it's time for you to effect this world!
With sooooo much LOVE & COMPASSION,
P.S. I just updated the Killer Confidence Bootcamp information page, with details of what to expect from each week of the program, so even if you've looked before, look again!